I Ain't Said Nothin' But A Word...

I sometimes have to revisit my older blog posts, needing to repeat a message I'd hoped to convey earlier.  This one is a necessary repeat.  Over the years I've been through some things.  Not all of it has been pretty.  I've had female friends who've been through some things that were down right ugly. When I see or hear of young women dealing with mess that is polarizing to their young lives I want to reach out and shake them until they understand that they don't have to go through things.  There is no reason for any woman to deal with any mess from a man who is not deserving of their love. I have major issues with abuse in a relationship that is supposed to be loving.  So much so that I wrote about it in my book Graye , published last year.  I also touch on it in my upcoming book, The Sweetest Thing , coming in March 2014, and not in ways that readers might expect. And I periodically repeat stories I've told before. Sometimes women going through some things ne

Sometimes in life we have to sever ties with people who are not good for us.   Individuals who are toxic to our spirit, causing us more harm than good.   Severing ties with acquaintances and friends might hurt for a short time but usually proves to be for the best in the long run.   Severing ties with family is a whole other beast.   Twice in my life I’ve found it necessary to sever ties with family who were toxic to my spirit and well-being.   Individuals who seemed to continually thrive in negativity and bitterness.   Life with them was killing me and every breath I took confirmed it.   The ex-hubby was the first.   My sister was the second. Parting ways with the ex-hubby came with challenges.   We raised children together.   Six of them.   We have grandbabies and in-laws.   Our children took sides in the divorce and there were times when it wasn’t the one I wanted them to take.   After the dust settled we had to find balance again.   Navigating holidays wasn’t always e