I greeted someone today with a cheery new year wish and was swiftly dismayed when they turned around and asked me what was there to be happy about. It was an eye blink moment as I realized my joys may not necessarily be their joys. The first call of the New Year came from a family member who wanted to complain about the same damn things she’s been complaining about for the last five years. It was the same story, different day, and she was the only common denominator. She was allowed her moment because that’s how it has always been. When she finally hung up, I blocked her number. Not this year, Satan. Not this year.
Last year was rough. It took its toll and when I found myself on the verge of a nervous breakdown I realized I had to change for things to be different in my life. So, I once again washed my hands and my heart of everything that was toxic. I severed friendships, distanced myself from family, and focused solely on all things that brought me joy. If it caused me any ounce of angst I let it go. I refused to be inundated with other people’s problems and issues when I had my own to deal with. I focused on me and I became unapologetic about what I needed and wanted. I chose the path I needed to follow to get myself wherever it was I needed to be.
For me, embracing the New Year is all about continuing this life journey and being the best me I can possibly be. It will be about writing what I want to write and telling the stories I need to tell. I no longer have a desperate need to be validated by others. I know my worth and I will not allow it to be diminished by someone else’s lies. I’m happy with me and I really don’t give a damn if anyone else is.
I didn’t pledge to do anything specific this year. There was no long list of resolutions. I refuse to put that kind of pressure on myself. I know stress can kill and I have way too much living to do. But I did discover this wonderful list of life lessons a few weeks back that was circling the internet. Of the many declarations, there were a few that stood out and caught my attention. I have found myself referring to it often as I contemplate the New Year and I thought I would share them here.
And to answer that man’s question, what is there to be happy about? I say, EVERYTHING!
LIFE LESSONS for 2018
· Life is too short not to enjoy it.
· Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
· He can take it.
· Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present
· You have no idea what their journey is all about.
· But don’t worry; God never blinks.
· It calms the mind.
· Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
· When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
· No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
· Always choose Life.
· No one else does.
· Show up and make the most of it now.
· — dying young.
· Miracles are waiting everywhere.
· Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you need
· No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
· Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
· The best is yet to come…